Either you and the other party, or the Judge. You do have control over this process. I would encourage you to enter mediation with a strong mediator. Think about the way that you can divide up your assets that is mutually agreeable between the parties. It would necessarily be a compromise, but that is better than having a Judge decide your fate.
If you’re not able to agree regarding how assets are going to be divided in a divorce case, then you have to attend a permanent orders hearing and have the Judge decide. That’s like whirling the dice. You’re never really sure exactly how it’s going to play out. I would encourage you to get a good attorney, and I would be happy to help you in this regard. And consider setting your case for mediation with a good mediator. There are a lot of good mediators out there in all different price ranges, and with the assistance of capable counsel and a good mediator, most cases get resolved.
Otherwise you’re going to have to present your case to the Judge and have the Judge decide. That can be expensive, so it is a cost benefit analysis. You want to make sure that what you’re fighting over is really worth it and is there some way that you can compromise so that you’re not spending all of your money on attorneys and you’re able to get on with your life. So please call me, come in and see me, we can talk about the best way for you to proceed.